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A Thoughtful Note

While reviewing my emails recently I came across this article in Next Avenue an online community. Having experienced the loss of a spouse, a child and parents there is often an awkward moment when people say: How Can I Help. This article addresses the question quite well. What takeaways did you get? Share your comments with me at: kind@gratefullydisappointed.com.

 

FORGIVE:  Learn & Move On

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Writing a memoir forces you to journey back to a period long ago. A vivid memory of learning my spelling words came to mind. My mother had a mantra: Say it – Spell it – Say it again. So I would write the word, say it aloud and spell it and then say the word again.  This evening, while out taking my evening walk, I thought about Forgiveness and a mantra I could devise for my readers and forgiveness advocates like me and I came up with this: Forgive – Learn – Move On. Continue reading “FORGIVE:  Learn & Move On”

Taking Time To Relax

Welcome to Saturday, the Slocal lakeabbath day, a day of rest, relaxation and rejuvenation –  at least sometimes and supposedly. Saturday is also a day for family & friend activity and remember running those multitude of errands. Often times a family with a special needs child has limited opportunities to relax and rejuvenate.  Check out this encouraging piece on a weekend respite program was created. I thought it was nice as it is our goal at Erick’s Place to build a similar environment. Just a little something to ponder this weekend as you’re out and about chillaxing!

You Are Being USED!

Unconditional DVDThis Labor Day Weekend was gratifying. I had the BLESSED opportunity to RELAX, sit back and take stock of my actions over the past 8 months. A perfect way to end the Summer of 2013. The glorious three day weekend ended with my awesome husband, Rosy and I watching the movie “Unconditional. I will not spoil your viewing the movie for yourself, as it is a must see. But I will say this: You are being USED. Yes, you are, I am, your neighbor is too — we are all being USED.

Along this privilege of a journey called life, we are touched by others in a myriad of ways. There are people who help us navigate this journey through prayer (with us and for us); through guidance and advice; or simply encouraging us along the way — our cheerleaders. Continue reading “You Are Being USED!”

NOW I FORGIVE

…Now I have a forgiving heart….I forgive them and move on.” That’s what Gabrielle Douglas said during a recent interview with the SunHerald (www.sunherald.com).

Forgive and move on. These are powerful words that give all of us something to ponder.  The NOW shows a shift.

Think about it. We’ve all said and done something we regret – minutes, even days after.  Perhaps we used harsh words to someone during a time when we were angry about something else. Or, because someone hurt us we lash out at everyone.  Yet as difficult as it can be to forgive someone who has hurt you – it’s something that we all need to do in order for us to be free and move forward with our lives.  Being the bigger person and saying – I forgive you, gives you your freedom.  Holding on to the anger and bad feelings is an unhealthy time bomb. Your blood pressure rises every time you replay the situation in your mind. And guess what, the person we are angry with has MOVED ON!

So do a Gabby on the person who has hurt you:  forgive them and move on. You’ll feel better and the world will be a better place.

Sabrina Umstead Smith is available to speak to your group/organization on Forgiveness. Contact Sabrina for more information.

PUT IT BEHIND YOU

Journaling is a good way to capture your thoughts and feelings. You can work out problems, have a conversation with yourself, develop your ideas just by writing them down in a notebook or on a piece of paper. When you write them in pencil, you can erase anything you don’t like; when you type them in a word document you can save them and edit them at a later time or you can even delete them. I just came across some of the many journals I’ve kept over the years reviewing the entries. From those entries I recalled some really dark times in my life. The pain, anger and discontentment I was experiencing at the time is very evident in my words and tone. I thought to myself — WOW I have come a mightly long way since then. As I read through the entries some of those feeling were stirred up again, and I thought hmmm, I thought I was over that. Then I remembered something I read just a few days ago about putting the past behind and forgiving: I have to do my part to forgive the person and God will heal my emotions.

Experience – The Best Teacher

The other day on OWN (Oprah Winfrey Network) there was a special featuring some of this year’s Oscar nominees: Viola Davis, Best Actress for The Help; Octavia Spencer, Best Supporting Actress for The Help; and Jonah Hill, Best Actor for Moneyball.  Oprah interviewed all three thespians.  Viola Davis made a statement about forgiveness that really resonated with me (I’ll paraphrase):  Forgiveness is embracing everything that has happened to me.  Surely, our past is part of who we are, and no matter what our past was like, we learn from our life experiences.  The peaks and valleys of life are what mold us; making us wise and informed.  We either learn from them and grow or lament over them and suffer.  Learn the lessons and move forward to a better you – forgive4u!